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Four Pathways
to your Higher Self
Our duty, as men and women, is to proceed as if limits
to our ability did not exist. We are collaborators in creation.
– Pierre Teilhard de ChardinOur connection with our higher self is anchored in us through four universal archetypes that reflect God as Father, Mother, Christ (Boychild) and Holy Spirit (Girlchild).
Understanding how these archetypes manifest within you through patterns you imprinted as a child is a most powerful tool to help you to forge your spiritual destiny. It also can provide you with the strength, the empathy and the wisdom required to be able to love your neighbor as yourself in relationship with others. A consultation about how these four archetypes manifest for you specifically will bring greater clarity and cohesion to your life. For more information about how archetypal coaching can help you to make greater strides towards spiritual and psychological wholeness, please call 406-333 4331 or email us.
Our energies flow in their purest and highest form when we express our loving archetypes. We become, in an actual sense, the fullness of our higher self in everyday life. We integrate:
• The Loving Father: protection, direction, discipline, and conditional love.
• The Loved Boychild: courage, adventure, heroism, enterprise, loyalty, honor, patriotism.
• The Loving Mother: nurturing, guiding, teaching, explaining with unconditional love.
• The Loved Girlchild: caring, finesse, beauty, intuition, mysticism.
The energies of the four loving archetypes cycle through us in a clockwise direction starting with Father. The Loving Father is the creator and obtainer of our free will. He protects our souls and our burgeoning Christ consciousness. Through conditional love, he directs and perfects our free will.
The Loving Father gives us the impersonality we need to obtain freedom over our subconscious habituated responses. Through the Word, He puts forth a directive, “do….” (Father’s key word) and releases a burst of energy, an Alpha thrust similar to the solar flares that spring forth from the sun.
The divine impulse from Father God occurs in our day-to-day life each time we experience the impersonality that goads our free will to disengage from the subconscious and to co-create with the superconscious.
The Loved Boychild is the preserver and maintainer of our free will. In the Vedas, he is Vishnu, the preserver. In the Bible, he is the Christ who declares, “Think not that I am come to destroy the law, or the prophets: I am not come to destroy, but to fulfill.
The Loved Boychild preserves the Loving Father’s free will by acting upon it. He figures out “how” (Boychild’s key word) to do Father’s will and creates a momentum. He cognizes progressive self-revelation and acts upon this new level of Self-improved identity.
The Loved Boychild receives the infinite light impulse of Father and hones it into something more tangible. Like the aperture on the lens of a camera that opens and closes to capture just the right amount of light on a photographic plate, he processes Father’s edict into a defined picture that can be seen. As he faithfully maintains and defines Father’s thoughtform, he receives the divine accolade, “This is my Beloved Son in whom I AM well pleased.”
The Loving Mother is the provisioner and unfolder of our free will. She is Omega and Shakti, the divine complement. She takes Father’s free will, preserved and maintained by the Loved Boychild, and pro-visions into the future. She matter realizes the vision she receives. Then she nurtures, teaches, guides and explains to Boychild in a forward moving way. She supplies him with the “who, what, where, when and why” (Mother’s key words) he needs to fully flush out “how” to achieve Father’s directive.
Inseminated with the Loving Father’s creator principle, the Loving Mother holds in gestation an immaculate concept of that which is to come. As the next level of Father’s consciousness unfolds in Matter, she gives birth to exercised free will.
This energy is then passed on to the Loved Girlchild, who is the resolver and dissolver of our free will. In the East, her role is understood as Shiva, the cosmic dancer and the destroyer. In the West, her role is described by the apostle Paul. “Every man's work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man's work of what sort it is.”
The Loved Girlchild notes the conflict between what was, what is and what is to come. In tune with spiritual reality, she takes what has been created thus far to a place of resolution and judgment. An aspect of the Holy Spirit, she does not quicken that which has outlived its time.
The Loved Girlchild allows us to continually transcend ourselves. As we do so, a portion of us must be cast into the flame. This is what the apostle Paul told us when he wrote, “I die daily.” What was formerly correct free will is now obtuse.
Through her finesse mechanism, the Loved Girlchild first acts as a resolver, seeking to save what is seemingly unsaveable. That which no longer edifies the soul or gives progressive revelation to the next aspect of free will is dissolved. It has become unreal and is no longer relevant to the next cycle of initiation.
The energy that is freed up through this transmutative process is returned to the Loving Father. The Loving Father now has new space to create and a new opportunity to exercise ever-transcending free will in time and space. And the cycle of Life begins anew.
The Fall of Man
I shall tell you a great secret my friend
Do not wait for the last judgment. It takes place every day.
– Albert Camus
The fall occurs within us at the microcosmic level through specific patterns that we imprinted within the superconscious, conscious, subconscious and unconscious mind. These patterns are the reverse of the four loving archetypes. They are:
• Unloving Father: the tyrant, the critic and the controller.
• Unloving Mother: abandoning, spoiling or aloof.
• Unloved Boychild: the rebel and the bully.
• Unloved Girlchild: the victim, martyr and soap opera queen.
The negative energies of the four unloving archetypes are activated in us in a counterclockwise direction starting with Unloved Boychild as the antichrist who perverts the light of the Son of Man.
In the cosmology of the inner family archetypes, Unloved Boychild is the original unloving archetype. He wants to be favorite son and to have his way at the expense of others, and rebels when the Loving Father does not indulge him. He decides to take the matter into his own hands and creates a counterfeit system of unloving archetypes that he can dominate.
When Boychild is loving, obedient to the will of the Loving Father, all is in balance. When Boychild is unloving and strikes out on his own, all hell breaks loose. No matter which level of self Unloved Boychild occupies for you, it is through him that your inner world and outer circumstances ultimately fall apart.
Unloved Boychild balks at the Loving Father’s next download of free will. Instead of moving forward with it, he seeks to preserve the identity which at one time was sufficient but has since been outgrown. He pursues self-preservation over Self-transcendence. He chooses to go with prefabricated subconscious solutions that preserve our ego gratification, our limited self, our fight-flight response and our not self.
Unloving Father, Unloving Mother and Unloved Girlchild become agents for Unloved Boychild to carry out his control strategy. Unloving Father controls us by criticizing and judging us. He tells us we are not good enough. Unloving Mother controls through aloofness, abandonment and smother-mother. She ignores our real needs and gives us false comforts to pacify us. She insinuates that she is withholding a special gift that she just might bestow on those who do her bidding, until she gets a pied piper following. Unloved Girlchild controls through her martyr mechanism and “poor me” syndrome. There is no end to the harm we have to make up for. Like a black hole, she can never be satisfied. Unloved Boychild, of course, controls us by setting up win-lose scenarios where he lies, cheats, steals and does whatever it takes to get his way.
Instead of having Mother as a provisioner looking into the future, she abandons Father’s creation and her vision becomes limited, finite and illusionary. She goes aloof to Father and engages in a smother mother routine. She indulges Unloved Boychild with a spoiling narcotic, the sickly sweet feedback of “you’re wonderful, you’re fine and you don’t need to change.”
Unloved Boychild pursues her aggressively. “If you abandon and spoil me, I have every right to take you by force,” he declares. “You are not someone I must honor but someone I must trick into giving me the sickly sweet death of polar opposites, up and down, right and wrong, left and right, gog and magog.”
Then Unloved Girlchild comes in. Rather than provide resolution and spiritual reality, she carries an inferiority complex. Instead of dissolving the past, she revolves it. She nurses her wounds for the abuse—real or imagined—that she has endured. There is no room for Father to create anew. He simply becomes a critic of those who do not facilitate Unloved Boychild’s agenda.
Unloved Boychild validates his aggression through Unloved Girlchild’s victim pattern. He uses her warped sense of injustice to condone his disobedience. This aberrant self-justification where the offender becomes the victim often plays itself out in criminal cases. It also thrives in far more subtle ways within our own psyche every time we feel done to. It even inspired the Rolling Stones song, “Sympathy for the Devil.”
The cycle of self-annihilation wrought forth by our unloving archetypes is our own personal hell. When we give into the drowning stone of our subconscious negative coping mechanisms, we become critics rather than creators. When we outplay our inherited “shoulds” and engage in negative competition, the obtainer aspect of father warps into a final judgment on that portion of our unreality.
A Path of Overcoming
Yet in my flesh shall I see God.
– Job 19:26
Every time you strive to express a balanced and integrated manifestation of the four loving archetypes within your own personal soul psychology, you reverse the fall of man within your microcosm in the four quadrants of being. You become the expression of God as Father, Mother, Son and Holy Spirit within your etheric, mental, emotional and physical body.
This shift then impacts the world around you. Protected by your Loving Father, guided by your Loving Mother, driven by your Loved Boychild and inspired by your Loved Girlchild, you meet people where they are at so you help take them to a higher place.
Each level of growth you achieve ripples out, imperceptibly at first, until all of your encounters become saturated with a new awareness that spreads from person to person, like laughter in a room. The more you polish your diamond of self, the more you notice the gem inside every one else. You abide by the maxim, “I am my brother’s keeper,” and experience spiritual oneness, E Pluribus Unum, the great dream fulfilled.
You can enjoy authentic relationships because you are trustworthy. You know how to dispense discipline fairly, to love unconditionally, to compete with a win-win objective, and to care with empathy instead of sympathy. You understand that by accelerating your journey toward self-transcendence, you can change your circumstances and impact the people in your life.
This process of individual and collective soul restoration is described in Kabbalah as Tikkun. It can only occur through the diligent pursuit of spiritual and psychological growth, which go hand in hand to awaken your Christ consciousness.
• Work with your inner family archetypes to accelerate your psychological and spiritual wholeness
• Understand how the archetypal pattern you printed as an infant influences your life and relationships
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